Most of us want to be good storytellers.  We want to talk about our lives in ways that have drama, intrigue, and excitement.

But we often trip ourselves up by repeatedly telling stories (either to ourselves or to others) of our difficulties and failures while leaving out the most important part of the story: the fact that we came through the experience, marshaled our resources and, hopefully, grew from it. Your stories can inspire you and others as tales of survival and growth, or you can keep telling the same stories of difficulty and defeat.

This week, take one of your classic stories - the time you got dumped, the job interview that never was, or whatever else - and learn to retell it. Make sure that you’re the hero, not just the protagonist. Make sure to include the part about you’re still here and that you learned a valuable lesson - a lesson that perhaps other people could benefit from hearing.

Tell it to yourself that way - and others, even if they’ve already heard the sad version. Maybe you want to start telling all of your stories this way?

For more support changing up your stories, check out What’s Your Story?

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness. She counsels women and men throughout the country on how to get off the dieting roller coaster, give their bodies what they really crave, and love their bodies and themselves. Golda's counseling and activism work have been featured on CBS's The Early Show, ABC's Nightline and Time Out New York. For more support with healing your relationship with food and your body, get your free copy of Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining by clicking here.