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Striking a balance

2009-04-05T20:59:11-05:00

I made the choice to stop dieting over a year ago, and I am really happy about it. I have gained a fair amount of weight, but—other than growing out of some really cute clothes :(—I actually feel better about my appearance than I did at my thinnest.
However, my food and body issues have not been resolved entirely. I have spent the past year letting myself eat whatever I want whenever I want it. From what I have read about Intuitive Eating and HAES, I gather that I should eventually stop feeling like I need a piece of cake or pint of ice cream everyday—once I truly realize that I can always have whatever food I want, I should settle down and not eat the big box of Mike & Ikes in one sitting. But this hasn’t happened yet. I mean, I eat plenty of non-junk food, too, and I make an effort to get my fruits and veggies, my calcium, my fiber and protein, etc. But I crave “treats” daily.
I would like to not have this feeling of “needing” a dessert or sweet snack—I think having candy and soda too often is hard on my teeth, and I don’t think it’s a particularly good idea for me to keep gaining weight, as I suspect I am already above my setpoint.
But I can’t seem to find the middle ground between crazy-sugar-free-for-all and diet. It feels like a slippery slope to me.
I just wondered if anyone has any suggestions about how to deal with this? Thanks!

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Counter to Rising Costs of Obesity

2012-05-10T05:18:05-05:00

With sky high predictions about the cost of health care because of obesity in the next two decades, it’s important to get a sense of grounding in reality. This author does just that, pointing out the conflation that’s occurred between health and size rather than health and behavior.

It’s nice to see that someone is still thinking critically about these issues:

http://www.policymic.com/articles/8022/study-obesity-could-cost-americans-550-billion-by-2030-but-that-s-not-the-full-story

Size Acceptance Round Table

2012-05-01T10:54:42-05:00

Hello everyone! I’m hosting a round table discussion at my congregation about the size acceptance movement in August, with the goal of generating interest to start a size acceptance activist group in the congregation. I’m still very much in brainstorming mode, so I’d love to get input from you!

If you were going to host a round table discussion on the size acceptance movement, knowing that many people attending may never have heard of size acceptance, what would you want to include in the discussion? What resources would you provide to people to take home? How would you take momentum from that discussion and turn it into a size acceptance group?

Fatties with Heads!

2010-05-25T18:16:37-05:00

A few months ago, I wrote a blog entry at Return to Sender: A FAT Girl’s Letter to the World (http://www.tabayag.com), about headless fatties. It has definitely become quite controversial – a hot topic on my blog! There have been lots of mixed opinions about the topic and I think it’s important that people give this some thought – maybe just a little bit of thought, but some nonetheless.

So what’s a headless fatty?

I found Charlotte Cooper’s website, on which she coined the term HEADLESS FATTIES. A headless fatty is a picture of a fat person without a head, duh! Well, actually, its the phenomenon of the news media taking pictures of fat people (mostly women) and using them as basically spokespeople for the “obesity” epidemic – but without showing their heads. This is a legal way to media outlets to get stock photos and drive their point home. I understand why they do this and the legalities of it, but what I am here to say is that I still don’t think it is right.

I don’t think it’s right because it uses someone’s body to promote a message shame and self-hatred; it makes an “example” out of someone’s body. This disturbs me deeply. My body is just that, my body. I will decided what message I want to send with it and what it will promote. I only get one body – I’ll put it to good use – but this isn’t good use. I couldn’t imagine seeing a picture of myself with an article about how people like me are unhealthy and ought to be ashamed of themselves. Using my picture to embody all of the stereotypes of fat people: a lack of self-discpline, a dependency on food, an early death, a strain on healthcare, etc.

This pictures hurt me. They make me think of being the fat angsty teenager. And the chubby child. And of all of the people who were chubby kids, fat teenagers, and are fat adults now, who struggle to love themselves and be accepted. These pictures bother me because they are so unintentionally symbolic – the removal of the head – taking off heads is taking off the brain, the mouth, and what people look at everyday. Left with just a body – it’s objectifying.

But I have a project I invite you to join…

Fatties with Heads
http://www.tabayag.com/fatties-with-heads/

On my website, I have made a page called Fatties with Heads, for people to submit pictures of themselves – ALL of themselves, and be proud of who they are. No objectification, no talk of obesity – just beautiful pictures of real people. So, are you in?! Send your amazing pictures to me at sarah[at] tabayag [dot] com and be part of an amazing journey toward acceptance! Fat is beautiful!

Not always with mutual love and waiting for each other

2010-03-30T13:58:34-05:00

There is a kind of love that can only be appreciated!
We live in a multicolored rich world, it not only has beautiful scenery in this world and equally also has the person of different personality, different qualities, different personality magic power.
In the boundless life travel, you will acquaint with, meet a lot of people and they have different quality and magic power. Appreciate, like and love then became our dimensions of the most difficult to control.
Someone says that to man and woman the most important is to mutually know, love each other.
In fact, in your whole life, who can move you is far more than one person. All love each other?
Not very realistic, love is diligently the narrow emotion that you are engrossed in, it is fine but independent.
When you love a person then want to own him at great length, including his thought, his emotion and himself.

Are personal trainers worth it?

2010-02-15T19:38:56-05:00

Hey All, I’m trying to get motivated with exercise and I’ve thought time an time again about a personal trainer… has anybody else here had any previous experience with personal trainers? I understand at times they can be quite expensive and very demanding. Anyway, I’ve been watching the Personal Trainer videos on this site i found (i’m in Australia) and i’ve located a trainer i’m confident will help… It’s just a matter of taking the plunge! Is it better to do things myself or should i be buying my motivation is the premise of what i’m asking here…

Thanks,
Jenny.

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2012-03-10T22:01:02-05:00

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Always big….

2010-12-29T10:55:23-05:00

I was born with a belly. I weighed 6 lbs 2 ounces at birth. I swear at least 3 of those pounds was in my belly. :( I have dealt with negativity in regards to my size all my life. Being sexually abused & bullied in school did not help matters either.
I turned to food as a source of comfort. Food didn’t judge me, laugh at me, or make me want to kill myself. Children & adults did. I was suicidal for years, mainly because of my size & the way I was treated because of it. I’m still bad in some regards, although thankfully I’m not as quick to think that I’d be better off dead. I know I’m big, I know that I should lose a few for health reasons…. I just want friends, family, & a special someone who will ACCEPT me just as I am. Won’t expect me to change, to lose weight or become someone I’m not to make THEM more COMFORTABLE!
I’m 38 years old, never been married, only had 2 men in my life. Took me years to figure out that NOT wanting to be seen in public with me wasn’t NORMAL! I deserve so much better than I have gotten so far, from society, family members, & myself. I’m fine with who I am & my size when I’m alone, or talking to friends online…. It’s when I am out in public, watching people react to me that I get the self loathing come into play.

Anyone know how to end that…... I would really like to get to the point where I don’t care what others think of me. :((

Diet Industry Figure (with citation) at $58.6 Billion Annually

2011-01-13T09:14:57-05:00

Someone recently asked a question on a listserve that I wonder about often: the figure tossed about that the diet industry in this country is a “$50 Billion a year” industry. It’s a huge number, and could easily be fabricated for effect.

But lo and behold, one gracious person provided a statistic to illustrate this point - and topped the number.

The new number:

$58.6 billion annually in the United States.

Yep, that’s how much money is spent to make us skinny. Crazy!

And here’s the citation:

Marketdata Enterprises: The U.S. Weight Loss & Diet Control Market (10th
Edition). Lynbrook; 2009.

So now we can look it up and be on the same page. That’s a ton of money. What do you think about this figure? What do you think it comprises?