Reacting is something that happens immediately, when your emotions take control or when you think that you have no other options. When you realize that you have choices and that you can manage your emotions, then you can respond.

One of my life-coaching clients is trying to create more inner peace in her life. She is always racing to do the next thing, taking care of everybody else but herself. After working with me for a few months, she was ready to allow herself to go away for a fun and relaxing weekend. When she came back, I asked her what was different. She said that the main difference was that when she slowed down, she was able to be more discerning and more particular.

When she slowed down, she realized that she doesn’t have to automatically say yes to everything. She finally realized that she has control over these decisions. She then created a simple daily routine to remind herself to respond rather than react. A short centering affirmation in the morning is what she chose.

In the moment, when a lot of things are going on and you are “on the go“ you forget that you have a choice. That’s where slowing down comes into the picture.

Slow down and ask yourself: What are the facts and what choices do I have?

Sticking to the facts does not mean denying your emotions. It simply means managing your emotions so you can respond wisely.

Being thoughtful rather than thoughtless can make the difference between a response and a reaction.

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Michal Spiegelman of Balanced Moments successfully helps people worldwide create balance and fulfillment in their lives. As a Life Coach, Michal helps people stretch, get out of their comfort zones, grow and achieve. She holds a degree in social work and has 15 years of experience as an Energy Healer. Michal is a trained facilitator and mentor of the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. She is a Certified Professional Life Coach (CPC) trained by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC).