Love is funny. You will fully be there for someone you love if they need you, but you can easily become annoyed when they don’t do what you expect them to do, or when they don’t show their love for you.

How about showing them love first?

Let’s say that you have someone in your life – a spouse, a friend a family member – that you tend to criticize or judge. It’s really hard for you to love them. Or maybe, you get into this state of mind of “why should I love them? They should love me first.”

Let go.

Forgive.

Move forward.

Love them first.

Why?

Because you can’t afford to lose energy resenting people.

Use your energy for other things. Forgive them not because they didn’t do anything, but because you don’t want to give them so much power and energy.

Open you heart. Look within. What do you love about this person? Even if you don’t know right now, stretch yourself. What are you learning from them? What gifts do they share with you? You can always find something in that person to love. It could be anything…their smile, their willingness to help someone, their generosity, their stubbornness even. Find something admirable or lovable. There’s something like that in everyone.

And then – Express your love in action.

Rise above the resentment and love them. Yes, love them first! Give them a smile, a hug, a kiss, a good thought.

Bottom Line: Let go of the past, forgive, open your heart and show your love in action.
Ask: What is something I love about this person and how can I show it in action today?
Affirm: I open my heart and share my love. I am safe, loving and loveable.

Michal Spiegelman of Balanced Moments successfully helps people worldwide create balance and fulfillment in their lives. As a Life Coach, Michal helps people stretch, get out of their comfort zones, grow and achieve. She holds a degree in social work and has 15 years of experience as an Energy Healer. Michal is a trained facilitator and mentor of the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. She is a Certified Professional Life Coach (CPC) trained by the Institute for Professional Excellence in Coaching (iPEC).